Navigating Your Way through Mommy Groups

I never planned on being a stay at home mom. I was going to go back to work after my maternity leave was up. But I got laid off from my job the day before I was suppose to go back.

So, I found myself a stay-at-home mom in the worse job market in my lifetime. Because of this I wasn’t able to find a job. I was stuck home with a newborn, and even though I didn’t realize at the time, I had postpartum depression.

I got to the point that I had to get out of the house or go crazy. So I began to investigate local mommy groups.

I’ve met some very nice people in mommy groups, some people I don’t like at all, and only a few geeks.

Being a geek in a mommies group that doesn’t have many or any geeks can be a bit uncomfortable. They seem to look at you weird when you talk about geeky things that they have no clue what you are talking about. For a lot of these other moms, the only thing we have in common is that we are moms.

If you find yourself in this situation, toning down your geekiness can help you fit in better. Though for the most part, I really don’t like doing this because being a geek is what I am and I’m proud of it.

I also mainly go to the playdates and not the mom’s night out events. This way I don’t feel awkward in a sea of non-geeks. But it’s also because my husband works nights.

I am very thankful for the mommy groups I’ve been a part of. It was really helpful for my PPD to get out of the house, and I met my best friend through our local mommy group. We were immediately drawn to each other since we were two geek moms in a sea of non-geeks.

For all you fellow geek moms, what is/was your experience with mommy groups?