DISCLAIMER: This post contains serious spoilers for the season finale of The Bad Batch season 2 finale. Read at your own risk. But if you or someone you love needs a bit of support after that last episode, read on and please share!
The Batch lost one of their own this week, and I think it’s safe to say the fandom is NOT okay. Social media has been full of people staggering with broken hearts, a great many of whom don’t know what to do with themselves. After all, this was just a fictional character, right? It’s completely irrational to have a broken heart or to cry real tears over a pretend person—an animated one at that—right? Well, I am here to tell you that your feelings are COMPLETELY LEGITIMATE.
That’s right. I don’t care what your friends say. I don’t care what that rando on Twitter or Tumblr says. Your feelings are real, and they matter. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what gender you are, or whether you are neurotypical or neurodivergent. Your feelings about this are 100% legitimate because you, my friend, are a human being who grieves when they lose something. And we DID lose something. We lost my favorite character, in fact.
The fact that a fictional character made us cry is a testament to the age-old, very human storytelling tradition. Stories have been making people cry since the first that was told. A well-crafted story is designed to do just that. People cry at the movies all the time. They cry at the opera and while reading books. Why not while watching The Bad Batch too? Especially since Filoni and the rest of the show makers have spent the entire last season creating a situation where we have gotten to know Tech better with every week, where we started to understand all his idiosyncrasies and even identified with him. His loyalty to his brothers and his gentle kindness toward Omega. His level-headedness and ability to stay calm and logical in a crisis. And his courage and ability to jump in to rescue his teammates without hesitation. (Hello, when Omega fell into darkness in the cave and he just kriffing jumped in after her without even knowing where the bottom of the abyss was?)
He helped me understand my own neurodiversity better, and it felt so good to have representation on the screen. You’d better believe I had BIG feelings during this week’s episode, no matter how many times I watched it. And I know I’m not the only one who is hurting. I have heard from middle-aged men who cried. But I have seen a lot of young people as well, who feel confused about their reactions to the show, and who are asking for validation or understanding. “Can someone who is over 25 tell me they are crying, too?” has been a common post on social media.
The answer is yes. Yes, it is absolutely OK and normal for you to feel this way. The Bad Batch this season has been phenomenally done, and the best artwork should always make you feel something. Who is to judge which art “deserves” to be cried about? But sometimes it’s hard to know what to do with these big feelings we have. Even though people say distraction is the best way, for a lot of people it’s not an option with the way our minds work. I’ve made a list of some things that I have learned over my 46 years of life as a neurodivergent person who tends to fall in love with Star Wars characters and has had to face my fair share of people who feel the need to shame my passion for things or who don’t understand how I can feel so strongly for imaginary people. Here are a few ways to cope with these big feelings:
BONUS: OK, this, I admit, is pretty immature. But often it makes me feel better while I’m venting to make up bad names for a character I blame for my character’s loss. Like I said, it’s juvenile but can be oh-so-funny. And Force knows, I have some feelings about Saw Gerrara, Cid, and Doctor Hemlock right now…
To get serious for a moment: If your feelings and thoughts start getting dark, and you feel like you might be in a dangerous situation or might hurt yourself, there is a number you can call to talk to someone who can help. 988 will connect you to professionals at any time of the day who will not judge you, who will not be shocked or surprised by anything you say, and who will not shame you for anything. These are safe people you can turn to for help if you are afraid you might hurt yourself. You are not and do not have to be alone.
I hope you or someone you care about feels better after trying out a couple of things on this list. It’s hard, it really is, to lose someone you care about. When a character is as well-done as Tech was, they can truly feel like a real person in some ways, and we can feel attached to them. Those feelings are valid, and instead of feeling embarrassed or confused about them, take them for what they are: admiration for an excellent piece of work about a person you wish could be real. Take time to process your feelings and find some healthy outlets for them, and ask for help if you need it. Feelings are big and can be scary, but you are definitely not alone in experiencing them.
This post was last modified on March 31, 2023 10:44 am
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