If I had to pick one adjective to describe moms, it would be “busy.” We’re always on the go doing something or other, usually at the the cost of our own leisure time. As a result I find it difficult to find the time to sit and play video games that require hours of game-play working through excessively long levels, or exploring open-world universes, unless I choose to sacrifice even more of my sleep. I’ve therefore become a big fan of games I can dip in and out of easily when I have a little time to spare.
Some of us are severely addled by procrastination, even going so far as to read about overcoming procrastination on the interwebz rather than doing tasks that need to be done. If that’s you, check out this short video to learn the Pomodoro Technique:
Having a baby seems to disrupt things in your life, but that’s to be expected. But I didn’t expect some of the things that fell to the wayside. Now that my daughter is three years old, I’m finally getting back into a groove with some of the geeky pursuits I had put on the back burner.
I love video games. I have since my family got an NES in the mid-80’s for Christmas. Thankfully I married a man who loves video games as much as I do so we have nearly all the latest and greatest consoles. We are very well known at our local GameStop because we are always trading in games to get new ones.
But when my daughter was born, things changed. I had to decided to try and breastfeed her. It worked out well, but she nursed a lot which tied up one of my hands since it was being used to hold her. I learned how to surf the internet and play World of Warcraft one-handed, but it was impossible to play console games.
As my daughter got older, I considered playing console games again. But I thought a lot of them might be too scary for her to see. She also would grab at the controller and try to push the buttons. So I got out of the habit. I still used my Nintendo DS a lot and played quite a bit of World of Warcraft. But I was missing out on a lot of great games being released on the consoles.
Finally, I’m getting back into the groove. My daughter is old enough now that she can play with her toys while I’m playing a video game. The game that really got me back into wanting to play console games is Dragon Age: Origins. My best friend has been telling me how good this game is and finally I see how right she was. I don’t get a lot of time to play it, but it’s nice to be able to use my xBox 360 again and play a great game. I have Dragon Age 2 waiting for when I’m finished with the first game.
It’s just nice to be able to start to do some of the things I enjoyed before I was a parent. Is there anything you were interested in that it took you a while to get back into after you had kids?
As I grow older, I find making friends harder than it was when I was younger. Because I’m a mom, I am trying to make mommy friends so there can be kids for my daughter to play with as well.
I wrote a while ago about navigating through mommy groups, but I was thinking about the process of making friends. I think a lot of the women I’ve met in my mommy groups are pretty much acquaintances as we don’t have a lot in common beyond the fact that we are all mommies.
I met my best friend through our local mommies group, and while she lived right down the street it was easy for us to just hang out together. It was nice – she is a fellow geek and our kids adore each other. But then she had to move 2 hours away to Charlotte, so my comfortable little bubble was popped.
So, I’m trying to make mommy friends again, instead of just mommy acquaintances. It’s hard, because I’m a fairly shy person, especially around new people. But I’d love to find more friends with kids, for both my sake and for my daughter’s. But it can be hard to find other moms that I have things in common with and can make a connection to. But I’m working on it!
During most of my normal life, I don’t really get the chance to geek out very much. My life usually revolves around my toddler, husband, school, work, housework and other rather mundane things.
But recently I was able to. I attended ConCarolinas and I got the overwhelming feeling of belonging. It is great to be in a hotel with hundreds of other fellow geeks.
Also, in the course of normal life, most moms don’t get to dress up in costumes. I love costumes, and it’s one of the best things, in my opinion, about going to cons. I wore my Kaylee Layer Cake costume from Firefly and nearly everyone knew who I was supposed to be. I also got a lot of compliments on it which made me feel warm and fuzzy inside.
The highlight of the con, for me, was the Buffy / Dr. Horrible sing-along. We watch the Buffy episode, Once More With Feeling, followed by Dr. Horrible. And yes, nearly everyone sang along with both shows. It was great to be in a packed room full of people who love these shows as much as I do.
As I left the con, I had big smile on my face. It’s really great to be able to connect with other people with similar interests and really feel at home with my geekiness. I think this is one of the biggest reasons I love going to cons.